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Screaming STOP THE ABUSE Found on the netSandra On October - 5 - 2009

A MESSAGE FROM THE CEO & FOUNDER:

~ Sandra Dawn Potter ~

I continue to be asked over & over again “WHY DO YOU RUN THIS WEBSITE?”

I want everyone who reads this to know EXACTLY “why” …..

I am just a mother on a mission!
I was one of those parents who thought this type of thing would “never happen to me.”
We lived in a small country town and my mother & stepfather babysat for me
to KEEP THEM SAFE FROM HARM while I struggled & worked the night shift.
I mean, if you can’t trust your own family, who can you trust, right?………..

**WRONG!**

The day that I walked-in on my stepfather molesting my 5-year old innocent daughter
was the most HORRIFIC & TRAUMATIC moment of my life.
–My world (and hers), as we knew it, had just permanently changed–
On our way to the police station she looked at me and saw me crying.
She was wrapped in only a light blanket–
It was the only thing I could quickly grab as I rushed out of the house with her.
She said, “Mom, don’t cry. It’s okay. We were only playing our secret game.
My heart SANK!!

How could I not have seen the signs?
Why didn’t she tell me?
How did I not know?

I wanted this man to pay for what he did to my daughter!
He confessed to molesting my little girl from the age of 2-5 years old!
HE STOLE THREE YEARS OF HER INNOCENCE, TRUST & CHILDHOOD!
I went through every emotion possible from shock, denial,
depression & even suicidal–then finally anger.

Even though he was prosecuted & sentenced to 15-years for CSC 2nd Degree,
It still didn’t seem like enough.
I actually went out & purchased my first handgun
With the intention of serving my own justice,
but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.
My child had already been through enough trauma.

WOULD A JURY HAVE FOUND ME GUILTY?
It depends….
Because if any other parent had witnessed what I had to witness that horrific day,
By God, I cannot see how ANY jury could ever have found a parent GUILTY!!

I am convinced if I had known then what I know now,
I would have been able to STOP IT!
So, “THIS” is the reason I started my website.

I had to make a choice that day…..My (immediate) family or my daughter’s protection.

I chose my daughter & haven’t spoken to my “family” in over 16-years now.

I do not regret my decision—and haven’t looked back.

If you don’t stand up for your children, who will????

I know how hard it is to comprehend HOW or WHY an offender victimizes our innocent children

but, the reality is THEY DO!

And, that is why I am here.
I spend countless hours everyday working on my websites, researching &
posting information for my members —
hoping & praying to educate just ONE MORE PERSON
Because for each new member gained  is yet another chance of possibly saving an innocent child.

-I am not a lawyer
-I am not a counselor
-I am not a psychiatrist
-I am not a professional
-I am not a police officer
-I am not doing this for “money”
-I am not doing this for “attention”
-I am not doing this for “publicity”
-I am not doing this for “competition”

I am just an angry & concerned citizen & mother who wants to try to make a difference!!!

I am only here to educate others & offer my services on what I, personally, have experienced and learned along the way…and try to assist anyone who needs my help anyway that I possibly can.

I will not push my views, information, research or my cause
on anyone who is not genuinely interested in learning!

Please help us stop child abuse & neglect.

Child Abuse is Happening Everyday….
By both men & women!Educate Yourself–Learn The Facts–We’ll Show You How…
It only takes a few minutes to look over our site
It could just save your child’s life!!

Educate Yourself—Learn The Facts
This can happen in ANY household–Male or Female
It only takes a few minutes to look over our site
But, the knowledge gained will last you a lifetime.
It could just save a child’s life!
TOGETHER WE “CAN” MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
This is a matter of conscience.
I can not, and will not, close my eyes in the face of abuse, fully knowing what is happening to our children and knowing it will continue…
I have been, and I will continue, to be their voice.
If I can save one family from having to go through what my family went through, then I have succeeded!

 

~ Sandra ~

(Photo on left: My daughter: age 5 – In front of the home she was abused in)
(Photo on right: My daughter & I – before I knew she was being abused)
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UPDATE: 2011 – Earl Frederick Sprague (MI), my daughter’s rapist, died today. May he rot in hell!

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UPDATE: 12/19/2015 – My biological mother died today. I had not spoken to her since the day I walked in on my step-father molesting my daughter (21-years ago). She had written me random letters of “apologies” for standing by her child rapist husband, but there was no meaning behind her words; the damage was already done and irreversible. She told me her husband “needed therapy, not prison” … I disagreed and sent him to prison for 15-years.

I broke the silence and I am not ashamed of that! She mentioned in an unsolicited Facebook message to me that she was extremely upset I put “our story” on the internet for all to see. She felt my daughter’s abuse was a *private* matter. Really? I tend to differ!

I will NEVER stop advocating against child abuse – and neither should you! The cycle of abuse must be broken so that the abuse does not continue to pass on from generation to generation. If you know about the abuse, and do nothing, you are JUST as guilty as the abuser himself.

(Photo below: My mother and I – 1968)

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I have had to remove people very close to me for asking why I could not just “get over it?” I will never get over it, nor will I forgive those directly responsible for the continued, extensive sexual abuse my daughter endured. And how dare you ask me to!

I did not attend my mother’s funeral. I did what I could to be there emotionally for my siblings, helped take her belongings to a storage, but I did not physically attend. As I said before, I said my goodbye 21-years ago when she stood by her husband even AFTER finding out he raped my toddler child repeatedly, over and over, for years. My mother was an enabler.

Her death was the final chapter to this horrible nightmare. My daughter and I (and my entire family) can now have closure and move forward knowing we have started a new, healthy, non-dysfunctional lifestyle and a new generation. Toxic family members are just as bad as the abusers themselves. Breaking the cycle and keeping my children safe is my TOP priority – no matter the cost – no matter the loss.

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ASK YOURSELF WHAT *YOU* WOULD DO IF IT WAS *YOUR* CHILD

WHO WAS RAPED BY A FAMILY MEMBER!

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7 Responses

  1. Lily Says:

    I am shocked and stunned at the amount of child abuse going in all over the world. About 3 months ago, I came across Baby Briana’s story by accident. Every since, I’ve been depressed, I cant sleep, eat, work, and function like I used to. Just thinking about these poor children. I would like to volunteer my services. I live in Detroit, Michigan and I am willing to do whatever necessary to help out. I’ve donated hundreds of dollars to other child abuse funds, but I feel like this is not enough. Please advise. I have another request….the children used in your video, are they ok? Did you personally see these kids? What is their story….that is the most graphic video, I have ever seen….I’ll patiently wait for a response from you. Thank you so much.

    Posted on April 15th, 2010 at 1:11 pm

  2. John Hodge Says:

    im Her if You Need Me
    John Hodge

    Posted on June 5th, 2010 at 10:44 pm

  3. Blanca Says:

    I am glad I am not alone. The same thing happened to me. Maybe we can talk and unite to do good and help children. My name is Blanca Lily.

    Posted on October 13th, 2010 at 6:54 pm

  4. susane Ditmer Says:

    I want to volunter with abused kids because i know how they feel and think and act. I was severally mentally abused as a kid. I understand. I came out good and I want to give back. Do you know of any foundations.

    Posted on November 19th, 2010 at 8:32 pm

  5. Melanie Button Says:

    Let us not forget there are many types of abuse. Emotional and mental abuse is a horried thing.
    We are seeing it right now with our two grandchildren who are being brainwashed agains us. Parental Alienation is abuse.
    We rasied them for 13 1/2 years and we were the only MOM and DAD they knew now we are being keep apart for over a year.
    All abuse no matter what it is if it hurts a child is real..
    Go to my website http://www.virginiagrandparentsrights.webs.com and read my story. Sense I wrote it so much more has gone wrong. Just to much to write . Letting them run in bad places and not paying any attention as to what they are doing. Them being left alone . Just so very wrong and that was not the life style they had here nor a life style and child should have.
    We all need to fight all kinds of abuse. Any sort of abuse is wrong and needs to be stopped

    Posted on December 10th, 2010 at 3:21 pm

  6. Kim Graves Says:

    WOW! i could have been your daughter, the only difference is that when my mother caught her b/f when i was about 8 she ignored it…it went on until i was 15 and then she actually brought him back into the house…he never touched me again, but then i had to deal with my mother constantly acusing us of “getting together” then beating me…my aunt who was 2nd in charge at DYFS in Paterson, NJ tried to help but my mom threatened her also and she did nothing…i moved out a wk after my 18th birthday and believe it or not in my own healing have tried time and again to know my mother but have finally given up on that for the best…i have a 21 yr old son and a 1 yr old daughter that i love more than anything in this world … anyone that would ever harm them will definitely have to answer to me…i am a leo and momma lion is what i am…

    i know reading these things makes me terribly sad, but i have a need to read them..i really wish there were none to read..but as long as there are i will read the stories of these poor fallen babies…and i’ll say a prayer for them in my heart .. people need to read these things..maybe they will see signs they are missing..about their own children..or possibly they will see themselves….all these yrs later i finally spoke about this to my mother and she claims she doesn’t remember it…how sad

    Posted on December 15th, 2010 at 2:33 pm

  7. Lisa W. Says:

    Thank you for being a hero to your daughter and for being outraged enough to do something to make a difference. Your courage and determination are inspiring. I admire those who fight for children and give them a voice. As an adult survivor, I am very happy to know that there is an army of angels battling the darkness, exposing secrets and providing a pathway out of the hell of child abuse.

    Posted on December 30th, 2011 at 11:08 am

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DREAMCATCHERS FOR ABUSED CHILDREN, INC. is an official non-profit 501(c)3 child abuse & neglect organization. Our mission is to educate the public on all aspects of child abuse such as symptoms, intervention, prevention, statistics, reporting, and helping victims locate the proper resources necessary to achieve a full recovery. We also cover areas such as bullying, teen suicide & prevention, children\'s rights, child trafficking, missing & exploited children, online safety, and pedophiles/sex offenders.

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